The 3-Day Caregiver Bootcamp
Three live evenings. One clear plan for the parent you love.
Tuesday, December 8 to Thursday, December 10. 7 to 8 PM Central. Live on Zoom. Every session is recorded, and the replays are yours to keep.
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The holidays are when families see it.
You go home for the holidays and something is off. The mail is piling up. The same story, told three times at dinner. A new dent in the car. You drive home wondering what you are supposed to do now. This bootcamp is the answer to that drive.
Why the first conversation usually goes wrong.
Most of us walk in ready to fix things. Our parents hear it as being taken over, and the talk ends before it starts. The shift that changes everything: you are not the parent here. Your parents are adults, and how they live is their choice. Your role is to influence, not to take over.
Before any parent accepts help, they have to clear three hurdles.
1. Do they see the problem? You may have noticed it. That does not mean they have. Get them talking first: share how some things are getting harder for you, or a "what if," then ask, "Does that ever happen to you?"
2. Do they want to do something about it? "I got lost driving once, but I'm fine" is a common answer. Help them connect the problem to a real consequence, so they decide on their own that some help might be a good idea.
3. Which option do they choose? Offer options, not answers. Then ask what role they want you to play. When it is their choice, it sticks.
Want the full method now? Read how to talk to aging parents about getting help.
What we cover
Day 1. Know where you stand. Caregiving has seven phases. Find the one your family is in, read your Family Weather Report, and start your CREW Roster so you stop carrying this alone.
Day 2. The five conversations and the document check. The five documents that decide everything, where families usually find them too late, and the words that open the talk without a fight.
Day 3. Your first 30 days. The whole seven-phase map and exactly what to do this month. Then a look at the Care Plan Cohort for families who want to build the full plan together.
What you leave with
Three live sessions with Nicole. Three replays. The bootcamp workbook. The Before You Have To Checklist. Your CREW Roster. A 30-day plan in your own handwriting.
This is education, not medical, legal or financial advice. Nicole's job is to make sure you walk into those professional conversations prepared.
Who's teaching
Thirty years running complex operations for large corporations. Still blindsided when her own mother needed care. Nicole built the system she wishes someone had handed her, and this bootcamp is where it starts.
Questions before the first conversation.
What should I avoid saying to my parent?
Anything that leads with a conclusion. "You can't live alone anymore." "We've already decided." "You need to stop driving." Each one ends the conversation before it starts. Lead with curiosity instead.
What if my parent gets defensive?
Back off and try again later with a story instead of a concern. Defensiveness usually means the conversation skipped the first hurdle: your parent does not see the problem yet.
Is there a low-pressure way to start?
Offer to go to your parent's next doctor's appointment, then do something fun together afterward. You will learn more in that room than in months of phone calls, and the time with you is the reason they say yes.
Should my siblings be part of the conversation?
Talk with your siblings first so you are on the same page, then decide who is best to start the talk with your parent. A family meeting before the conversation keeps everyone on the same side of the table.
What if my parent has dementia?
The approach changes as memory changes. Arguing with someone who has dementia rarely works, because repetition and accusations are symptoms, not arguments to win. See Stage 4: Deep in It for more.
Bootcamp details.
When does registration open?
Soon. Join the early-access list at the top of this page and we'll email you the registration link the moment it opens.
What if I can't make it live?
Every session is recorded, and the replays are yours to keep. Watch when you can.
What time is that where I live?
7 to 8 PM Central is 8 to 9 PM Eastern, 6 to 7 PM Mountain, and 5 to 6 PM Pacific.
What does the $27 include?
All three live sessions with Nicole, the three replays, the bootcamp workbook, the Before You Have To Checklist, and your CREW Roster.
Is this medical, legal, or financial advice?
No. This is education. Nicole's job is to make sure you walk into those professional conversations prepared.
Be first in line for December 8.
Three live evenings on Zoom. $27, replays included. Join the early-access list and we'll email you the moment registration opens.